Have you ever been trying to flirt with a girl or trying to approach a girl and it did not go well? It’s terrible when it ends in rejection, right? And when it ends in embarrassment.
That’s not what you want, that’s not what I want for you. In this article, you are going to learn how to flirt with a girl in a way that impresses her and attracts her.
There is the right way to flirt and a very wrong way to flirt and I’m gonna be sharing with you the right way. Sound good?
Well before we dive in if this is your first time here, welcome! My name is Melannie. I’m a Christian dating coach for men.
I teach you how to stop wasting your time and your money and your energy on dead-end relationships by learning the skills you need to instead have the girl and the relationship of your dreams.
Flirting is one of the best ways to make dating and relationships fun. It’s a fabulous way to make talking to girls fun.
If you are looking for a crazy happy, crazy in love, and a lifelong relationship then knowing how to flirt is a very important skill.
If you’ve been following my channel for a while you guys know that I always teach you the skills you need to have that crazy happy, lifelong relationship.
You cannot use the same skills to get a lifelong relationship that you use to get a one night fling, okay? You just can’t.
Therefore you must know how to flirt the right way and it has nothing to do with mind games and acting aloof and “alpha-ing up”.
What you’re about to learn are the actual skills that get you that crazy happy lifelong relationship.
How To Flirt With Girls Tip #1: Understand Women’s Body Language
So my first tip on how to flirt with girls is to make sure you understand how to read women’s body language.
One of the best ways to avoid rejection and embarrassment is to make sure she’s interested before you ever approach her.
Can you imagine how less stressful it would be if you already felt really confident that she was interested in you before you ever started flirting with her?
Having that skill is a really fabulous way to make sure that it goes well. So being able to read women’s body language really is key.
Being able to tell if she’s interested is definitely a step in the right direction, it’s not everything you need to know though so make sure you don’t skip the other tips I’m sharing with you.
Tip #2: Don’t Be Needy
Our next tip on how to flirt with girls is to make sure that you don’t come across as needy or possessive or clingy.
I’m sure you already know this, but if you come across as needy it’s done. This is one of the biggest mistakes I see from men who are trying to flirt with girls.
Let’s just talk about what it means to be needy for a second. Needy is kind of a mindset and you have to be aware of the mindset if you’re going to change it.
If you are needy it’s because you need the other person. You need her to flirt with you. You need her to pay attention to you.
That is completely different from wanting her to pay attention to you, but it’s okay if she doesn’t.
When you have solid dating and relationship skills you don’t feel desperate, you don’t feel like it has to work with this person.
Because frankly when you have the skills you need, you have those dating and relationship skills, you know what works and so you know what to do next.
You know it’s only a matter of time until it does work with the right person. And so if it doesn’t work with this gal it’s not a big deal because you’re not desperate.
You know what works, you know how to make it work, instead of desperately trying anything to get someone to notice you.
So the cure for being needy and the cure for being possessive and feeling desperate inside is getting those solid dating and relationship skills.
Someone who is needy needs it to work with this person, needs her to respond.
Someone who’s confident and has those solid skills would like it to go well but they don’t need it because they know what they’re doing and they know that ultimately they’re going to have the success they want.
So would you like to learn those skills? I am sharing some of them with you in this article, which is fabulous.
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Bottom line, if you don’t want to be needy anymore it’s important to shift your mindset from “I need this person. I need this to work” to “I would like it to work but I’m not desperate because I know what I’m doing.“
Tip #3: Know What To Say
Now our next tip on how to flirt with girls is to make sure you know what you are going to say. This is huge.
So many guys, this is the biggest mistake they make. Maybe they can think of one clever line… and then they don’t know what to say. And honestly, that’s totally normal to freeze up.
The basics of small talk are key. This is going to help you feel comfortable, this is going to help her feel comfortable, and help her feel attracted to you.
When you are flirting it’s important that you don’t just spend the whole time focusing on “what flirtatious thing could I say?” That’s going to make you creepy and that’s going to make you awkward.
That’s not what you want so small talk is a huge lifesaver. When you know the basics of small talk, when you have that game plan, that is what’s going to help you.
This is again why having solid dating and relationship skills is so important.
So do you want to make sure that she doesn’t feel awkward, that you don’t feel awkward, that there are no awkward silences? Then brush up on your small talk.
Tip #4: Keep Your Goal In Mind
My next tip on how to flirt with girls is to remember that you need to keep your goal in mind.
What is your goal when talking to this girl? Well, you want to attract her, you want her to notice you, you want to get to know her a little bit better, right?
The entire goal when you are flirting with someone is to let them know you’re interested. Really that’s what it is.
But so many people are afraid to let somebody know they’re interested, they’re afraid to let them know that they are attracted to them, and that’s what makes it awkward because you’re trying to hide it.
When if you’re flirting it should be really obvious. That’s the entire purpose of flirting. “Hey, you’re cute, I’m cute, we’re both cute, we should get to know each other better.” That’s basically flirting in a nutshell.
So don’t try to hide the fact that you’re attracted to her, don’t try to hide the fact that you are interested. Be careful, because you don’t want to overdo it. You want to approach it the right way or you’ll creep her out.
But if you are trying to hide the fact that you’re interested, then you’re really not flirting. You’re just some random guy standing there and she has no idea what you want.
So embrace the fact that when you are flirting, you are showing interest and remember you’re not desperate. Again you don’t need this to work you would like this to work.
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Tip #5: Notice Your Body Language
My next tip on how to flirt with girls is to pay attention to your body language.
Your goal here is to attract her, right? You want her to see you as a man and masculine and confident. Body language is a game-changer.
If you appear needy or desperate or overly nervous in your body language, she’s going to pick that up.
Women pick up on body language a lot better than men. That’s just science, that’s just how God made us.
And so she’s going to pick up on those cues and it’s gonna make her feel awkward, it’s gonna make her feel nervous.
So instead, if you present yourself as confident and attractive, whoa, that’s super attractive.
It also helps you stay calmer, makes you feel more confident, and makes her feel more calm and confident and interested.
This is why I teach my clients about body language in my program. It’s one of the most effective tools you can learn. 80% of communication is non-verbal, so your body language is telling her many things.
But also when we place ourselves in certain positions, we feel certain emotions. So it’s going to make you feel better and it’s going to make you look better.
Tip #6: Keep Things Casual
Our next tip on how to flirt with girls is super important guys, please pay very close attention. Keep this casual, keep this light.
This is not a long-term commitment. This is not you asking her to marry you. This is two people who think each other’s cute and they’re trying to playfully get to know each other better.
Do not tell her that you have feelings for her or you’re crushing on her or you are in love with her. Do not do that, you guys.
That is one of the worst mistakes you can make when flirting with a girl. That’s not flirting with a girl, that will actually make you come across as very creepy.
You should never tell a woman you have feelings for her unless you’re official and seriously dating.
Otherwise, it pushes her away. It comes across as needy and creeps her out.
So remember, this is just two people chatting. This is just two people letting each other know they’re interested. It should be fun, it should be light, it should be casual.
Tip #7: Don’t Compliment Too Much
Compliments are a fabulous way to flirt. They just are, I’m going to be perfectly honest with you about that. However, a lot of people get in the mode of “well, I need to flirt,” and so they just compliment like crazy.
And what that does is that makes her feel like you want something from her or you’re not sincere or genuine. It doesn’t feel like you’re being honest and upfront with her.
She wants to carry on a conversation with you, she doesn’t want to be worshiped by you.
So be sure you don’t over compliment her. It’s good to include compliments but don’t overdo it.
How To Flirt With Girls Recap
Let’s recap on what you need to know about how to flirt with girls.
One, make sure you can read her body language. If she’s interested in you and you can tell from her body language, this is going to be so much easier.
Two, make sure you’re not coming across as needy or possessive. When you have solid dating and relationship skills, you don’t feel needy or desperate, because you aren’t, you just know what works.
Again make sure you watch my free masterclass to learn more about this.
Next, make sure you know what to say. Brushing up on your small talk is a game-changer.
And remember your goal here. Your goal is to express interest. Don’t hide that you’re interested and instead be open about it.
Next, keep your body language confident and attractive.
Also, remember to keep it light and casual. Do not tell her you have feelings for her. This is not a lifetime commitment, this is flirting.
And be very careful that you do not overdo the compliments. You can compliment her, but don’t overdo it.